Babies As Weapons

Seeing Anna for the second time ever I think has really made me realize so many things about life, love and family. Throughout my life, I’ve listened to the joys of those close to me say: “I’m going to be a dad” or “I’m pregnant”.

I have barely ever responded differently than, “Oh my God, I’m so happy for you, congratulations!” But now I realize that that amount of joy for my friends is not even close to being enough. That what had just been announced to me is nothing short of a miracle. There was always something in their eyes when they announced this that I’ve missed seeing all this time; until now.

They had a certain glow I somehow never previously saw. An aura more powerful than a supernova they emitted when they spoke of being a father or mother. My interpretation is that they knew they were now a part of this miracle of child conception that I am speaking of.

To explain a little further of my opinion of what a miracle is, I’ve narrowed it down to only two things that I believe constitute a miracle: Marriage, and the birth of a child. Please allow me to define my thoughts, and again opinion on this.

Marriage is a profound concept because it is of such a great sacrifice beyond rationale thought from not one but two people, it defy’s what could be considered “the norm”. I’ll attempt to define in this example:

The two lovers that are married are people. But who you are married to are wings. And when you fall, are pushed, jump, or by some odd event removed from the ‘cliff of life’, will your partner be there to be your wings? Will you fall below and die, or will you be gently set back to earth because your wings helped you to land safely? Essentially, will your partner be there for you? Knowing that they will be there, or do everything possible in their power and beyond to be there is truly a miracle.

Birth of a child...A specific ability by design for only one of the two sexes of the human species. Yes, not to be done alone as a male is needed here for this (please exclude modern science, and revert back to the original concept), but the fact that a human can produce another human.

How can one define such a profound ability to do that? A humbling talent ladies can do, and I have always been in absolute awe of this. On the outside, you look like any another human and mostly the same as any man physique wise, but something exclusive only to you has been installed on the inside: the power to produce many more humans. No doubt a miracle!

This to me is why a woman’s choice in who the father will be should never be random, taken lightly, and should not be abused. Be skeptical! You have a power that can define a cultural future, so be wise and methodical; this in turn can inspire a man to learn patience and perhaps a dose of wisdom for himself.

Knowledge is power yet knowledge always changes. Wisdom never changes.

XenoSapien

My Dearest Anna,                                                                                                                                                          Feb. 4, 2009

Today is February 4th, 2009-- 16 days before your second birthday, and six days before your mother's birthday. After almost two, well actually three if you count the pregnancy time period, I just found out that I truly am your father.

Let me first say that I was so happy to see you around Thanksgiving of 2008. It was this time that I had my very first moments with you, and I was only filled with great joy. You are so beautiful, and a very curious child. Truly, an event to be most thankful for. You are a blessed gift from God, and He has been most righteous to find a way to bring you to me.

I was so happy and enthusiastic to see you--there is no other feeling I have ever had that was greater than that. You are the only child I will ever have, as I have eliminated any future possibility of impregnating anyone else through what is called a vasectomy.

When you arrived here in my home, you were very sleepy. I would expect that, because your mother drove a long way to get here. But you were soon awake, and acquiring data on your new surroundings.

You and your mother stayed here for two days, and the over-all visit was very pleasant. She and I talked about old times and you played with your toys. I'm sorry that my cat was not so friendly, as you were very curious about her. She is just shy about new people coming into her home.

But what was the greatest part of your very first visit ever was the first hug I got from you. You climbed up on the couch, and sat on my lap. Your mother and I were talking at the time, but I rubbed your back. Almost immediately, you rubbed my back. Then I patted your back. Almost immediately, you patted mine. This powerful moment I will never forget.

I've got some chores to do now, but I will write to you again very soon. I love you, you are my world, and truly the greatest thing I've ever done.

Love,

Dad

"I THINK THIS PETITION IS BOGUS DUE TO THE FACT THAT DERRICK AND KYLINE AVEY USED THIS TO THERE ADVANTAGE TO GET CUSTODY OF A CHILD I RAISED FOR 5 YEARS WHICH THEY DID NOT WANT CONTACT WITH THE FIRST YEAR AND A HALF AND NOW THEY WANT TO PUSH WE NEVER GET TO SEE THE CHILD AGAIN. THESE PEOPLE ARE LIARS AND FRAUDS"

Chad C 36 Pennsylvania

Today I was reading some of the reasons people give when signing the petition to change custody laws found on the Comments/Your Story page. This one above is the latest signing.

To be perfectly clear, I don't know anything about the folks who created this petition in the first place, nor their reason for doing this petition. With that in mind, I can only state that it is the purpose of the petition, not who is behind it, that is important here. I sympathize with you, Chad C, but I am ignorant in respects to the story behind this petition; yet I still wish for it to remain alive here on BAW.

Folks, this is a perfect illustration as to why the issue of children and custody is such a 'touchy' issue. This is reinforcement as to why each born child has such significance when dispute is or is not involved. Every now-and-then, I'm reminded of exactly this point, and this comment on the petition to change custody laws reminds me why.

Children are tomorrow's accomplishment; tomorrow's future and our legacy. Every child matters and is crucial to the survival of any culture; one of very few "guarantees" in life. It is fact that perpetual motion has never been achieved, but I submit that children are the closest solution to perpetual motion.

XenoSapien

As you can now tell, Babies As Weapons has taken on a new form. It is no longer just a website to vent and let out the frustrations men and women feel from the whole issue of custody. I've realized that there are a great deal of sites on the net that writers and viewers can 'vent' their frustration of unfair laws already.

It will now add (so long as my brain can conceive new ideas), in addition to what BAW already offers, proposals of actual custody law amendments. Some or even all the ones that I list may not be good enough; which is why I'd like for your input and also to rate the amendment beneath each individual amendment. My idea is to introduce these proposals, and let you the viewer destroy, sand-down or accept them.

Now, as you can see, the title of this blog is 'A Lesson Learned'. Allow me to explain:

I have recently become a part of a website that is a question/answer type of site. I really like it, as anyone who is a member can answer and ask any question of any kind. There is a directory of categories that one can choose from, and ask their question. Sometimes within a few seconds, an answer is given by another member. I really love this site.

In my excitement of introducing BAW's new direction, I went ahead and made the first three amendments I proposed here as questions on this site. It didn't take long for answers and opinions to start popping up; it also didn't take long for people that didn't understand my position and reasoning for proposing these amendments in the first place to also pop up.

I understand now that viewers there didn't have enough background on my website, its mission, or me. The opposition took all at face value, and ended up making guesses, like:

"What I find distressing is that Xeno feels that his wife is being highly unfair to him, and his response is to try and change things so that other kids in the future will be even worse off than they are under the current system. It doesn't really sound like he cares about his kid and what her future is going to be like at all. Or at least not enough to fight to make it better.

I mean, I could see trying to make changes that would make fathers getting custody easier, but these amendments really do seem oriented to getting fathers off the hook, and nothing else."

I never married the psycho. Thank God. And see what this person doesn't know about me or what I am doing here?

Then, an attack from someone who says I "scare" her, and who admits that she only wishes that I fail. I replied to most of her statements (She is in quotes, and I am in '--'):

--We are all in charge of our emotions. If you're scared, that's your problem and your issue to deal with.

"Because you don't have the money to fight for your child (um...ever hear of a LOAN?), you're taking it out on everyone else, and making a case that takes away rights, rather than grants them. "

--I've already tried loans, but my credit is so bad, nobody will touch me.

"You say you have no bitterness for your ex, and this is about the child, yet all I see here is anger towards your ex, and lack of drive to gain custody of your child. Money or not, I can not see how leaving your child in that environment would be good for the child. You seem unwilling to sacrifice anything for the welfare of your child--your name, your money, your job, whatever."

--Most of what was posted was last year. Most of the bitterness is gone now. Look at the dates of the blogs. Hmm, you must have missed the listed that I've posted twice now about what I have done...again, sick of repetition. PRISON is the conclusion for fighting for my daughter. How many times do people have to repeat things to you before it registers? For the very last time, the mother is extremely vindictive, and since she knows I will not take her back, she will strike with great vengence propelled by her talent for lying. I'm not going to repeat this again.

"I have no sympathy for you, nor do I have pity. I hope your plans fail utterly, because they are so poorly thought through for the greater good that it's not even funny. "

--I have no desire to have sympathy or pity, and it's obvious you want me to fail. All I asked for with this proposal, again repeating, is for a yes or no or fair or not fair. Not for some 'under the lamp' drilling of which the person still remains lacking in sufficient data for the subject.

"You talk about not using a child as a weapon. Well, what exactly are YOU doing? You're trying to make it so that a child can be used against its mother, even before it is born!"

--So it's ok for her, but not me? Besides, she is the one with the physical control and I am not.

"Yes, our laws are flawed, and in some cases a parent gets custody that probably never should. But you, sir, sound as though you are as psychotic and obsessive in your own way as the child's mother is. She may have a criminal background, but I've know a lot of people who have turned their lives around for the sake of a child."

--90% of the time, the woman has the power in the courts so stop acting like it's any kind of fair. Your assessment of me is entirely without merit and means absolutely nothing. No woman will ever again tell me they will mail me a fetus, and expect nothing to become of it. Maybe you don't have enough compassion or emotion or experience to have someone tell you convincingly that your child has been murdered when they are in fact alive.

XenoSapien

So in short, lesson learned. People with not enough background on my situation don't get the full picture. To this very day, all three of my threads are still being viewed (one of which is almost at 600 views), and one of which has been closed per my request.

This is a lesson learned for me, and I will not deploy my amendments on this site again. Another lesson I learned is something that I have heard about before: "It is human nature to focus on the messenger rather than the message, and, ipso facto, corrupt the message..."

XenoSapien

I know that it has been a while since I've written a blog here. I've been quite busy shaving down rough edges, and doing fine-tune work with BAW to really make it shine. Officially, BAW has been online for 127 days, and it seems that it is still always going to be a work in progess. I'm surprised how far it has come.

But if you have noticed, I've thrown a political curve in my mix. I've placed 'no vote for Hillary' pictures on the main page. It is not going to be there for too long, nor explode into many more to follow, as I do that strictly on my MySpace blogs. I'm not about the political structure here, as the root of the site is saturated in a march for mens rights, and the march in pursuit thereof.

However, yes, I'm against Hillary Clinton for president. I feel that she is the unofficial official President of the U.S. Femi-Nazi (right-on, Rush;)) movement. I believe, and as one of my previous polls shows (currently listed on the main page) that by opinion votes, the feminists are responsible for men being kept from rights in the courts, away from management of more rights in respects to their role in a child's life, and in turn crippling a child in the right to know who their real father is and have him as a part of their life.

It is Hillary Clinton, who I believe with every fiber of my being as the one who will annihilate any progress in the future landscape of mens rights. In fact, I can go as far as saying that mens rights will end up as a concept quickly forgotten. Perhaps, it will be even more demands inflicted on current and future fathers from day one of her presidency.

I sat back and watched Bill Clinton commit treason, allow Bin Laden to go free three times, and give a known cocaine King-Pin, a man who owes the IRS over $100 million dollars in back-taxes, and is responsible for holding U.S. soldiers hostage during the Iran/Iraq war a presidential pardon. It wasn't U.S. versus Iran...it was an American versus an American.

So why would I want four years, let alone eight more years of this treasonous shell called the 'Clintons' to tell me what's best for the nation that I live in? Above that, why would I want to elect someone who will guarantee that I would have an even harder time knowing my own daughter?

XenoSapien