So you’ve just been through a nasty breakup, and have been left reeling. Maybe it wasn’t something that you wanted, and your man was the one who pulled the trigger, or maybe not. Either way, this can be a very emotional time for you, and often times leaves you wondering if you want to try and get your boyfriend back. Before you decide this is something that you want to do, it is always a good idea to let the dust settle.
When a breakup is still fresh, you should take a step back, and evaluate things. Decide if you are going to be more happy in the long run without this guy in your life, or is it really a good idea to try and get him to like you again. In some cases it may be a good idea, but you want to ensure that you are making those decisions when your mind is right, and isn’t spinning out of control with emotion.
If you have been in a very long term relationship, you may feel lost and alone when you are first dumped, but as we’ve stated, take a deep breath, and really think about the situation that you have found yourself in. Maybe it will be nice for a change to be an independent, single person. You don’t have any commitments, and you’re calling all of the shots now! That doesn’t sound all that terrible to me. Of course, all of us want some form of companionship, and we’re not saying that you’ll want to be single forever, but you do want to take a second to enjoy these opportunities when they come along, especially if you’re the type he is usually in a long term type of relationship.
If you really can’t stop thinking about the guy, and you won’t be able to fully enjoy your new found freedom, then there are ways to try and get him back, and we’ve outlined those on our page on the topic. Remember that this can be a risky road to go down, so tread with caution, and make sure you are fully committed to wanting to get back together with this guy. You don’t want to make a decision that you will regret. It’s also important to consider that he did dump you, so who is to say that he won’t change his mind again in the future. You don’t want to try getting back together with him to have it only turn into a few nights of hooking up, or you may just turn in to his booty call when he is out at the bars drunk.
This won’t always be the case, but we just want to make sure you take everything into consideration when making a choice that could impact your life!
For now, enjoy this video on how to survive a breakup. We enjoyed it, and hope you will to!